Episode 96:
How to take care of yourself for strong health in midlife divorce
Is it possible to feel empowered through divorce?
“It's that analogy I use all of the time of you putting on your oxygen mask first so that you can help other people. And that's often what doesn't happen for many women in life full stop. But certainly when you are going through that divorce and if you do have children to consider, you're thinking about them and all of the changes that they need to be supported through and perhaps other family members.”
— Nicola Farndell
“I help your nervous system to feel grounded and safe so that you can think clearly. Because when you can think clearly, you can make good choices, the right choices, choices that are going to serve you and your future, that allow you to be the CEO of your life, not your lawyers, not the financial advisor, not your ex who's telling you you're not going to cope, you can't afford, and all the other limiting stories that keeping you small.”
— Farhana Hussain
For many women who face a break up or divorce, their health takes a huge hit, causing mental and physical health challenges, some that take years to overcome, and some that change how you feel, how you live, and even who you are, forever. Women lose confidence and put themselves so far down their list as the practical tasks that separation and divorce result in, and the emotional needs of their children if they have them, all take top priority.
Farhana Hussain is the UK’s only Divorce Doula and advocates for women navigating divorce with confidence and strong health. She emphasises the importance of taking care of yourself and finding inner calm and empowerment during the divorce process so that you can thrive and embrace the new chapter in your life. With divorce rates among women over 50 increasing, we talk about the importance of self-awareness, acceptance, and taking small steps to build new habits that support your health. Our message is that divorce in midlife doesn’t have to mean sacrificing your own health and happiness.
In our conversation today we explore:
What Farhana’s role as a Divorce Doula consists of and why she’s on a mission to modernise the divorce process and entire experience for women.
Why there is so much focus on divorce being about the legal process, but how it is much more about the deeply personal and emotional process that impacts every area of your life.
The common themes amongst women facing divorce, such as feeling not good enough and fear of the unknown.
Implementing tools to help you calm your nervous system which is critical to support your health and overall divorce experience.
The increase in divorce rates among women over 50 and why divorce in midlife doesn’t have to mean an end to a healthy and happy life.
The importance of self-awareness, acceptance, and taking small steps to build new habits and rituals that support your health.
Farhana’s 3 simple steps to get started building new habits for self-awareness and supporting your health.
About Farhana:
Meet Farhana, the UK's first Divorce Doula, revolutionising divorce support. As a British Bangladeshi, devoted mother to three teenagers, a former teacher and now a divorce expert, she combines practical advice with deep emotional and spiritual healing, streamlining the cost of divorce on your health and wealth. Farhana’s mission is to guide you to peace during your divorce, empowering you to thrive beyond it and become the CEO of your life. Called a 'real-life fairy godmother' by her clients, Farhana has been widely recognised as a divorce expert, with features in magazines, broadsheets, and national papers, including BBC radio and Good Housekeeping. She's dedicated to transforming the divorce experience, helping you rebuild a life of strength, wisdom, and joy. Discover how she’s redefining divorce support and empowering you to embrace a future full of possibilities.
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