The Midlife Lie We’ve All Inhaled

For decades, we’ve been sold a version of midlife that sounds like this:

"Hold it all together. Smile. Keep going. Everyone feels like this."

The unspoken part?

"And don’t you dare fall apart."

But here’s the truth, whispered through 155 podcast conversations I’ve hosted, shouted in the moments I fell apart, and gently spoken in the messages women send me every single week:

You are allowed to fall apart.

The Real Impact of Alcohol on Hormones, Mood and Identity

Alcohol doesn’t just affect your liver. It touches every part of your life. For women in perimenopause, alcohol hits differently. Your hormones are already fluctuating. Your nervous system is more sensitive. Your stress threshold is lower.

Even one or two drinks can disrupt your sleep, spike anxiety the next morning and heighten irritability or low moods.

But most of all? It numbs. It disconnects you from your inner voice. From your joy. From the woman you're becoming.

You’re not broken—you’re changing

If you’ve always been the one who holds it all together, midlife can feel disorienting. You’re capable and committed, yet tired, wired and not quite yourself. Sophrology invites you to pause, feel, breathe and reconnect—so decisions start coming from self-trust instead of self-pressure.

Do you ever look in the mirror and wonder, “Who am I beyond all the roles I play?”

For many women, midlife can feel like a crossroads. After years of prioritising family, career, and the endless to-do lists, it’s common to wake up one day and feel like you’ve lost touch with who you are. The identity shifts we experience in motherhood, relationships, and even as we navigate perimenopause and menopause are profound—but they are not the end of our story. In fact, they are an opportunity for a new beginning.

This blog explores how to reclaim your identity, step into your power, and embrace midlife with renewed confidence and purpose.

I hadn’t significantly climbed the career ladder, I’d progressed steadily with great performance and feedback on my contribution to the business. I didn’t step up to a director role, like some of those I’d interviewed and brought into the company years before. I suppose I'd plodded, always contributing and diligent, but never taking the next big leap. Something had held me back, that inner voice chattering endlessly, making sure I knew my limits.